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(Notes I took at a 3DM Learning Community with Bob Rognlien)

John 1:35-42 (NIV)

35 The next day John was there again with two of his disciples. 36 When he saw Jesus passing by, he said, “Look, the Lamb of God!”

37 When the two disciples heard him say this, they followed Jesus. 38 Turning around, Jesus saw them following and asked, “What do you want?”

They said, “Rabbi” (which means “Teacher”), “where are you staying?”

39 “Come,” he replied, “and you will see.”

So they went and saw where he was staying, and they spent that day with him. It was about four in the afternoon.

40 Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, was one of the two who heard what John had said and who had followed Jesus. 41 The first thing Andrew did was to find his brother Simon and tell him, “We have found the Messiah” (that is, the Christ).42 And he brought him to Jesus.

Jesus looked at him and said, “You are Simon son of John. You will be called Cephas” (which, when translated, is Peter[a]).

Some thoughts:

  1. Verse 37
    1. The two disciples here are Andrew and John the author himself. They were disciples of John the Baptist.
  2. Verse 38
  3. Verse 39 – The Person of Peace Principle Luke 10:1-11
    1. Offer your peace to people
    2. Whoever receives your peace and reciprocates
      1. Go with them (get into the new context)
      2. Stay with them (not a quick time but a long time)
  • Eat with them (this is a covenantal act) – says you want to be friends with them.
  1. Heal the sick that are there. (learn the authority given to you and take risks allowing God’s power flowing through you.)
  2. Tell the good news
  1. Only way to find a person of peace is to BE a person of peace.
  2. Identifying a Person of Peace
    1. The WELCOME you.
    2. The LISTEN to you.
  • The SERVE you
  1. Verses 40-42 – We see the Five Guys
    1. Andrew, John, Peter, Phillip & Nathaniel
    2. These men go with Jesus as his followers, part of his new spiritual family.

Luke 4:14-30 (NIV)

14 Jesus returned to Galilee in the power of the Spirit, and news about him spread through the whole countryside. 15 He was teaching in their synagogues, and everyone praised him.

16 He went to Nazareth, where he had been brought up, and on the Sabbath day he went into the synagogue, as was his custom. He stood up to read, 17 and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:

18 “The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
because he has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners
and recovery of sight for the blind,
to set the oppressed free,
19     to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”[a]

20 Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. 21 He began by saying to them, “Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.”

22 All spoke well of him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from his lips. “Isn’t this Joseph’s son?” they asked.

23 Jesus said to them, “Surely you will quote this proverb to me: ‘Physician, heal yourself!’ And you will tell me, ‘Do here in your hometown what we have heard that you did in Capernaum.’”

24 “Truly I tell you,” he continued, “no prophet is accepted in his hometown. 25 I assure you that there were many widows in Israel in Elijah’s time, when the sky was shut for three and a half years and there was a severe famine throughout the land. 26 Yet Elijah was not sent to any of them, but to a widow in Zarephath in the region of Sidon. 27 And there were many in Israel with leprosy[b] in the time of Elisha the prophet, yet not one of them was cleansed—only Naaman the Syrian.”

28 All the people in the synagogue were furious when they heard this. 29 They got up, drove him out of the town, and took him to the brow of the hill on which the town was built, in order to throw him off the cliff. 30 But he walked right through the crowd and went on his way.


  1. The Five Guys go back to Nazareth because this is where Jesus was from. His mother and father are from there.
  2. Here we see Jesus’ Oikos
    1. Oikos is the Greek word for “house” or “home”
    2. The Oikos served two purposes
      1. Protection – The police did not protect you, the Oikos did.
      2. Provision – You need a big family to give you work and pay for life.
    3. Oikos
      1. Build around a family business. Jesus’ family business was called “Tekton” in the ancient Greek. This meant “Builder, Contractor, Stone Mason”
      2. Builders in the Middle East were predominantly workers of stone and not wood. Carpentry was used for specialized work but general builders used stone for walls, roads and main major structures
    4. In verses 16
      1. It says Jesus went to the synagogue, he most likely did this with his Oikos.
    5. In verse 17-19
      1. Jesus reads the scroll, which is a powerful declaration of the people of God being set free.
      2. This would have been interpreted as highly political, however this was not Jesus’ intent.
    6. In verse 20-21
      1. When Jesus rolls the scroll up and says “this has been fulfilled in your hearing”, the people would have interpreted this as him taking on the mantel to lead people into the future against the oppressive people of the day.
    7. In verse 22
      1. The people here are excited to hear what Jesus is saying. They know he is the “home town” boy so he was setup to be the “hometown” hero.
    8. In verse 23-24
      1. This is a foreshadow to the cross.
    9. Jesus then goes one to teach the people regarding the Gentiles
      1. 1 Kings 17-18
        1. Elijah helps a widow in Zarephath
      2. 2 Kings 5
        1. Elisha heals Naaman the Syrian
      3. Jesus was challenging the Jewish listeners to think beyond themselves. He asks them to think about the saving of the world.
    10. In verse 28-29
      1. Where is Jesus Oikos? Where is Jesus’ mother and brothers? Were they weak people or strong “Tekton’s” as well.
      2. This most have been one of the most painful moments of Jesus’ life. Not only did his “hometown” reject him but his “home” rejected him.
    11. Following this passage, Jesus and the disciples go from Nazareth to Capernaum. This is where the “Five Guys” were from. When his “hometown” his “Oikos” rejected him, he went with his new extended family to their “hometown” to seek new people of peace.
    12. To better understand the concept of Oikos, you have to understand New Testament Archaeology.
    13. Jesus built a new kind of family

Jesus created: A family for others & A family on mission

    1. This is what it means to be a spiritual parent
    2. Jesus goes on mission and takes people with him and he goes on mission healing people and preaching the gospel to them.

See here in Mark 3:20-21 (NIV)

20 Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that he and his disciples were not even able to eat. 21 When his family[a] heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.”

  1. Jesus family comes out to him to try and save him from himself. Jesus biological family went out to him so that they could save him from his crazy teaching and odd behavior.
  2. Here Jesus says to them, that his spiritual family is before him.
  3. Jesus family comes to him at the cross. His mother.
  4. Mary his mother is at his feet and there Jesus tells her that his disciples are her children. John 19:25-29.
  5. James, Jesus brother became the leader of the church in Jerusalem.
  6. Jude, Jesus’ brother wrote the book of Jude.

Some Takeaway Thoughts:

To Discipleship as a Spiritual Parent:

  • You need to receive Spiritual Parenting
  • You need to give Spiritual Parenting

What Spiritual Parents Do:

  1. Imitate: Their own spiritual parents.
  2. Investigate: Those who are responsive.
  3. Invite: Spiritual kids to follow and share life.
  4. Invest: All the capital they have in them.
  5. Incite: Challenge them to do the same with others.

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